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I looked down at my infant grand-daughter as she was crying. She was trying to tell me something.she knew how. Crying would get someones attention and then her needs would be met.
As we grow older we learn the art and skills of communication. We learn how to get under brothers skin so we can get him in trouble. Or snuggle up to grandpa and get that cookie that looks so good sitting on the
childhood to young adult. them anything they wanted.Those same young people think those wants are really needs.They insist them and feel that this is their right to have these things. I am sure many of you have seen this in your own families as I have seen in mine.
regrettably we have grown up to consider that the the human race owes me and must listen to what I am crying about. Hello! I grew up thinking this approach and it was a long and difficult journey to recognize that as long as I was forever yacking with my talk, I wasn’t hearing what anyone else had to express and I was never going to learn and grow if I didn’t study the exceptional art of listening with your heart.
I know what your going to say, “The squeaky wheel gets the oil”. Unfortunately that is usually right. Sales people talk a lot. They are people that move up the ladder faster. They walk on everybodies toes to get where they are going and to be heard. They are forever running a hundred miles an hour, and in no way stop to smell the roses. It is not in their make-up.
Happiness eludes people of this type of nature. They struggle with relationships. Getting what they want always comes in the way of manipulating others. They are still in that babies crib crying for their needs to be met.
I too was on this path until I met a person who actually listened to me. Most people don’t know how to listen. They go through the motions like they are listening, but they aren’t. They are just looking for the opening exit out the door. But this person became a very close friend of mine. I liked talking to him because he listened. I mean he really listened, and he cared, he really cared. I could tell, he was not faking it.
When someone recalls to you days later what you said, that’s a true sign they were He would, days latter, ask me about how something, that I talked to him about, was going. Was I really hearing this right? Someone actually heard what I said? I felt important. I felt valued, but most of all, I felt loved.
I grew up in a family that everybody talks and no one listens. every person just talks over everyone else. To this day, when we get all together as a family, it is just a great noise of individuals talking, and talking loud, so as to be heard. I would just look from one place to another at this chaotic disorder of words soaring into empty space and no one is hearing them, let alone understanding them.
Well I quickly learned it was not easy to undo what years of talking had done. I had to re-program myself and force myself to learn to listen. Now I don’t mean just sitting still and being quiet and letting the other person talk. If this was all it took, you might as well talk to a wall. Walls will probably listen to you just as well as anybody else would. You have to learn to hear and understand with your heart. You heard the old saying. ” God gave you two ears and one mouth.” That should tell you something.
I have a business that I run. Learning MLM secrets. Now, I know a lot of people that do their business with their mouths, but that is the old fashioned way. I do business with my ears now. People buy from people that they trust. When I found a friend that listened to me and took the time to learn who I am, I trusted him. I liked him, because he gave me something that no one else ever did. He gave me his precious time and he listened to me. He didn’t say it with words, but with his heart he was saying, ” Brian, your important to me, and I care about you”. For you business people, you will get a lot more sales when you learn the skill of listening with your heart.
Not only will listening with your heart do wonders for your business, but wait till you try it at home. Your wife will think that you died and someone has taken over your body. Your kids will actually want to help you around the house. Because they will have found, not just a dad, but a dad who wants to take time listening with your heart. You’ll make them feel important, valued, and most of all…..loved.
Try it. It won’t be an easy transition, but with constant work, you will nail it down and get really good at it. It will change your life.
Brian Gosur is the president and CEO of Expert Innovations Inc. Marketing Modeled Startegies Specifically for Your Business Learning MLM Secrets Brian Gosur
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